What if, when you wanted to buy a car, you had to pick from three models, a YES, a NO, or a MAYBE, depending on which kind of person you were. What if, along with gender, everyone was also designated as a YES or NO, based on their basic approach to life.
I thought of this while I was driving across town with a dear friend (whom I shall call X), and we were talking about things going on in the world and in our lives. I turned to X, explained the YES/NO concept, and said, “I would be a YES and you’d be a NO, right?”
X said, “um…..Maybe,” which is X’s usual answer for many things. So for X, I added the third category, “Maybe.”
X is someone who will never admit to being happy, as if it would be dangerous to do so. When X rates a movie on Netflix, or a transaction on eBay, X never gives the the full 5 stars. These things must be doled out carefully.
I’m just the opposite. I see myself as a person of big enthusiasms and gladly give 5 stars; I’m more likely to say I LOVE something than I like it. I love feeling happy and will gladly tell the world when I am.
Of course all this YESness has not always been to my advantage. There were many times in life when I should have said NO, but didn’t. And maybe I should be more of a MAYBE, more careful, tentative, taking a long time to think things through, rather than jumping right in, throwing caution to the wind. But then I wouldn’t be me.
I wonder if other people see me as a YES. How do you see yourself? Are you a YES, a NO or a Maybe? Do you think your friends and family would agree? Do you think one is better than the other?